Wow, I don’t even know where to start from. This week I’ve learned a lot and had so much fun with Shebz (we must be soulmates, can’t explain it otherwise!) and my awesome friends and tried new things. (You know that feeling I described in detail in my last post? I was very lucky to experience it a lot this week!)
As I mentioned in previous posts, I’d like to keep some of my life personal and cherish some of the amazing moments I live privately but I’ll share with you lovely people what I learned, which is the main reason I started this blog!
Where to start? Well I’ll start with this ( I think I might have mentioned it before, but oh my it’s important!): If you sometimes get this feeling of unsettling which makes you wanna go away right now, move to another country, quit your job, do something stupid or crazy or whatever makes you wanna do, don’t do it! That feeling won’t go away.
I know it’s not easy but you need to deal with it. You need to explore and find what is it that makes you feel that way and when you do, address it! That’s the only way it will go away which brings me nicely to my next point.
One of the ways to do that is to find what makes you happy (I know I must have written about it A LOT but it’s good to remind myself). I found trying new things and saying yes to people and things you wouldn’t normally say yes to doesn’t just make life more interesting but it makes you learn more about yourself, meet new people and end up having lots of fun!!
Some people are happy to go to work, go home and watch TV. If that’s what makes you happy, do that! That’s not what makes me happy. I guess I want more from life!
A very important lesson I learned this week is that healing takes time. Getting over a loss such as someone’s death, the end of a relationship or a friendship is not easy and there is no ‘set period’ in which you need to do that.
Annoyingly as humans we tend to push others and ourselves to get over a situation ASAP. Well that doesn’t work. Take your time… Pretending you are over it doesn’t help. You are not only lying to yourself and others but it sets you back and you might also end up hurting other people who don’t deserve it. What you resist persists!!
For me what it seems like a better solution is to accept the fact that you are still in repair, that you are not over it and just keep moving on with life.
We all experienced loss in our life. We all lost loved ones. We all messed up.
I know I did. I lost my grandma, my aunt, friends, the best friend I had for 7 years, a lovely person who cared about me. I hurt people I cared about. What helped me was to take the lessons I’ve learned from my experiences and mistakes and however difficult it can get at times to just keep going.
Nothing can bring my grandma or my aunt back. Nothing I can do right now can bring back into my life the friends I’ve lost. And I completely and utterly accept that.
I found it gets better and better as time goes by and one day in a couple of months or a year or however long it takes I’ll wake up and thinking about my losses or missing the friends who are not longer in my life won’t affect me as much anymore.
What I also found helps a lot when you are having one of those difficult moments when you are thinking of your losses is go to your happy thought. I have many but I definitely have one that makes me chuckle and remember how beautiful life is every single time!
I can go on for hours but I don’t want to make this post even longer so last lesson for today: do not rush love!
I don’t know about you, but for people, especially at my age there is a lot of pressure to ‘couple up’.
Being single can be amazing! You are free to do whatever you want, whenever you want with whoever you want!
Yes, sometimes you want someone to cuddle up and feel the love and affection, but being with someone just for that, is not worth it, believe me. Wake up next to someone special to you, don’t accept mediocrity. Be with someone because you are in love, not because you feel lonely.
As the dreamer I am, I believe that one day I’ll find someone who will be up for the ideas I come up with, love me for who I am even when I am having a bad day, go crazy for each other, be spontaneous and have lots of fun together!
One of the pros of getting older and going through relationships is that you learn what you really want in a relationship. And now that I know what I really want, I won’t settle with anything else. Life is too short to waste time!
So for now I just enjoy life with my lovely friends! I already have amazing plans for next week. I can’t wait!!!
I’ll finish my post with a quote (you know by now that I love them)
“It’s impossible” said pride. “It’s risky” said experience. “It’s pointless” said reason. “Give it a try” whispered the HEART.
Enjoy the weekend!
Love you all! x